Monday, November 23, 2015

Why am I Here? | S.E.M.P.L.Y

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As I face the days ahead and the ushering in of the new year, I ask myself the question, “Why am I here?”.  As I evaluate my life and access past events and look forward to what my future holds, I am more aware of that question.

I began this blog as a result of that question, which was germinating deep in my soul long before I gave words to it.  The purpose for this blog ties in to my lives why.  That purpose: Spiritual, Emotional, Mental, & Physical Love for myself (Yourself), to become whole in my being by really knowing who “I” am. (Hence the name SEMPLY Whole Woman). This is a life time journey of discovery and there is no point of destination.  This is a journey to which the only end is death.  Therefore, since I am in this life until death do me apart from it, I have turned in my hat and badge for the position of life mundane.  I have made a conscious decision to stop going through life without purpose, merely existing.  I have decided to on purpose live a life of purpose, that my life would be an expression of the gifts that God has invested to me. 

A little over 2 years ago there came this sense of unrest, a sense that there was more to do, more to live.   It caused me to move beyond what I have known, beyond what was familiar, and beyond what was and is comfortable. With knees knocking I move forward with anticipation and fear. Yet never-the-less progressing, to discover and uncover the gift of me.  To know and to be intimately familiar with the truth of Psalm 139:4, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made”. To be able to boldly declare the latter part of that scripture (“And that my soul knows very well”) with full assurance and confidence in that truth.  To see in me the beauty, the talent and the worth that God sees in me and has created me to be.  To know the wonders of me, as God has created me.

For those of you who are already well on your way in living a life of purpose, I ask that you allow me to walk with you and glean from you. For those of you who are where I am, I ask that we be a source of encouragement to one another.  Finally, to those who may be feeling the stirring, know that you are my push and I would like to be yours as well.
If you are a blogger please leave your site address in the comments section, I would take great delight in your words of wisdom and your take on this journey called life. I am sure that I will be encouraged by your witness and your expression of purpose.  

Until next time, live to the fullest, laugh a lot and love much, and remember to never forget that you have greatness in you….. because you were created by a great God!  


“Becoming a Semply Whole Woman”    

Monday, November 16, 2015

Love: What Does It Really Mean? | Love

Webster’s dictionary defines Love as:
a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person

I have always been an admirer of words, which is why I enjoy writing. I am by nature, through God’s creative design, a person who at my core, desires effective communication.  I am a person that means what she says and says what she means.  So by that standard, the way in which words are used have significant meaning to me.  

Over the past few years I have heard on more than one occasion, by a few different pastors that the
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word “Love” is over used in today’s society, thereby making it under-valued. It has been said that one should never ascribe the feeling of “love” to inanimate objects such as cars, homes, jewelry, or even food. The word love should only be used to describe how we feel about people. I have taken that on as a personal belief.  Often times I will stop myself mid-sentence if I am about to say that I “love” a thing. I have a growing understanding for the importance and the power of words.  Scripture says, “death and life is in the power of the tongue”.  That is not to say that saying that you love apple pie is a death or life situation. However, I believe that as we allow ourselves to be desensitized to the true meaning of words this leads to less effective communications.

If there is no real distinction between how we feel about apple pie and how we feel about our spouse, children or family members, then how do we effectively communicate our love for one another and actually have it mean something.  I am not talking about the way love expresses itself. It is quite easy to express words of love but not have actions that convey the confession. No, I am simply talking about the verbal expression of how we feel about people.  I think in some ways this is why some have such an easy time saying “I love you” so quickly.  I guess if a person can be in love with apple pie after only one bite, then it’s not so hard to conceive that that same person would be able to utter the words “I love you” after only a few weeks or months of knowing someone and then a few months later be totally “in love” with someone different. 
This is just my personal rant on the subject, so please feel free to chime in and give your take.

Until next time, live to the fullest, laugh a lot and love much, and remember to never forget that you have greatness in you….. because you were created by a great God!    

“Becoming a Semply Whole Woman”      

Monday, November 9, 2015

Fitness for Living | Physical

For all of my adult live I have had issue with my body size (my weight). However, looking back at myself, I realize that up until my mid 30’s I was not at all over weight.  Standing 5’ 5” and weighting in at approximately 138.  I was by no means overweight, but that was my perception therefore it was my reality. 

It was not until after I was married for several years that my weight began to escalate.  ( I won’t ascribe numbers from this point forward J ).  But since that time I have struggled to maintain a healthy weight.  The fact that I often use food as my comfort, coupled with the fact that I am a total foodie makes this a constant challenge for me.  I also have a deep abiding affection for sweet dainties! This makes my plight even more daunting, so managing my weight continues to be a work in progress. The up side to this dilemma is that I have always really enjoyed jogging and even lifting weights from time to time.  However, the fact that I enjoyed jogging did not always guarantee that   I would make it a part of my life schedule on a regular basis.  For the longest of time, even though I enjoyed jogging (especially in the outdoors) most of the time I did not make it a priority, unless of course I was attempting to drop a few pounds.

Photo by: Marilyn Martin 
Although I am not at my optimum weight at this present moment and am working to knock off a few pounds, I have a new take on exercise.  Over the last year I have discovered quite by accident that exercise has a dramatic impact on my mental state.   I noticed that when I get out for a run (these days a brisk walk) I am more optimistic about life.  I also tend to be more objective about things that may not be exactly as I wish them to be.  I discovered that not only does exercise (in my case jogging or a fast pace walk) reduces stress, which allows me to think clearer, but it also increases endorphin.  This is why I always seem to have a better outlook after a good run or walk.

This new found revelation has totally changed my perspective on exercising.  Although I still totally use jogging and walking to burn calories to lose weight, I am now committed to making this a life-long habit.  I have made a commitment to myself to walk (or jog) 5 days a week primarily because it helps my perspective on life.  When I first began my commitment to walk or jog 5 days a week, I told myself that I only had to do it for one week.  At the beginning of the next week I told myself the very same thing.  I also put up a calendar on the back of my bedroom door and for everyday that I kept that commitment I put an “X” on that day signifying that I had done it.  On the days when I don’t want to get up I look at the calendar and tell myself that I cannot put an “X” on that day, which means that it will be blank.  That usually gets me going. I also remind myself of the huge benefits this small act will have on my outlook for the day.

If exercise is not already something you do on a regular basis, then I encourage you to consider making it a part of your life’s schedule.  If you already have a consistent exercise schedule, then take a little time to consider the other ways in which you benefit from it. 

I will share other discovered benefits upcoming posts on this subject, so stay tuned.  
Until then may you live well and realize that you have greatness within you because you were created by a great God!  

“Becoming a Semply Whole Woman” 

Monday, November 2, 2015

What Do You Think About You ? | Mental

Our mental state of mind affects every area of our lives. I know, I know…that on the surface appears to be a statement of the obvious.  But this is especially true when it comes to what we think, reason or feel about ourselves.  The images and opinions that we hold in our own mind about our self has a direct effect on how we live and interact with others and the world around us.

I have recently come to realize that I have held some options of myself that I had not been consciously aware of.  Despite the fact that I was unaware of them, these unnoticed self-options have had a profound effect on my life up to this point. Some of these self -views stem from my childhood, the way in which I was raised and the manner in which I was dealt with as a child. Others came about as a result of life experiences; disappointments, failures, and mistakes just to name those that immediately come to mind. 

Where the mind goes, the man will
follow. Joyce Meyers 

Photo By Marilyn Martin 
Understand me when I tell you that I did not set out to uncover these unconscious believes. I did however set out to learn how to better love myself and to grow spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically and become whole. Seeking to be healed from the disappointments, wounds, failures and mistakes of my life. I also want to learn to take these seemingly crippling and debilitating issues and find the good in them so that they work for me and no longer against me.

Now I am not suggesting that any one begin digging up past childhood issues or even past disappointments, failures or mistakes.  I am however suggesting that it is a reasonable thing to take an honest look at what you truly believe about yourself.

I have come to understand that I am the only one who can change the negative beliefs about myself. In doing so I change my destiny and the way in which I deal with lives issues, people and the world around me.  I now make it a point to (on a daily basis) read and listen to things that encouragement me. Again, that seems like an obvious point, but I now understand that this must be an intentional act daily, with the targeted negative belief in mind.

What negative thoughts and/or options do you hold about yourself that have unknowing kept you stuck?

Once identified what course of action do you plan to take to get unstuck and move forward?

I will share with you two of the things I do, and will elaborate on them more the next time we are together and talking about our mental health and how it effects our lives.

Until then, may you learn to think well of yourself and realize the gift God made you to be.


“Becoming a Semply Whole Woman”